“The weak are dominated by their ego, the wise dominate their ego, and the intelligent are in a constant struggle against their ego.”
Anybody can critisise anybody else provided they are unbiased. A biased criticism sprouts only from a plagued mind. One who is criticized must be mature enough to give an ear or turn a deaf ear, as each criticiser is a different entity with very different outlook. While dealing with public one should come fully out from the shell of egoism.
As a real human being, one will find plenty of people around him/her with unflattering traits and characteristics. They can be someone who is just plain stupid or disgustingly character-obese, a friend who is lazy slob that gets nothing done, that drama queen at work who complains all the time his/her family member who wastes their life away by watching Netflix and playing video games all day and so on. It is sure one can think of more examples from one’s own day to day life. The point is that these people exist everywhere with just handful of exceptions. Even the greatest of man will have his flaws.
Does one feel disgust and contempt every time he/she come across these people? If yes, one needn’t feel guilty. While one’s deranged society, mad with political correctness will have one feel guilty for being judgmental; being judgmental is completely normal and human. One wouldn’t have been evolved with it if it didn’t help one survive. What is important is not whether one is judgmental or not but what one do with these judgmental thoughts.
The best way to use judgmental thoughts is to use them as a means of improving oneself by initiating a moment of self reflection. For example, while one is judging someone else’s character, maybe there is something about one’s own character that can be improved. When one scorns someone else’s lack of discipline and perseverance, one should take care that one oneself is disciplined and persevering in all areas of one’s life. While one becomes annoyed and even angered by the flaws and weaknesses of others, remember that one has one’s own responsibilities to overcome own flaws and weaknesses.
It is far too easy to look down upon those who are beneath one and feel better about oneself. It makes it easy to forget that one has yet more to master in one’s own life, This is exactly why people get addicted to looking down upon others in contempt with some going as far as bullying. It gives them a relief from having to focus on their own flaws and shortcomings. Don’t fall into the trap of self-contentment and complacency. It doesn’t matter how big their flaws are or how small one’s is. That difference is meaningless. One’s judgment of others should be a means of one’s self improvement, not a means of petty status comparison. The only way one will become a better man or woman is if one strives towards one’s goals and set a higher standard for oneself without putting self or others down.
Anybody can critisise anybody else provided they are unbiased. A biased criticism sprouts only from a plagued mind. One who is criticized must be mature enough to give an ear or turn a deaf ear, as each criticiser is a different entity with very different outlook. While dealing with public one should come fully out from the shell of egoism.
As a real human being, one will find plenty of people around him/her with unflattering traits and characteristics. They can be someone who is just plain stupid or disgustingly character-obese, a friend who is lazy slob that gets nothing done, that drama queen at work who complains all the time his/her family member who wastes their life away by watching Netflix and playing video games all day and so on. It is sure one can think of more examples from one’s own day to day life. The point is that these people exist everywhere with just handful of exceptions. Even the greatest of man will have his flaws.
Does one feel disgust and contempt every time he/she come across these people? If yes, one needn’t feel guilty. While one’s deranged society, mad with political correctness will have one feel guilty for being judgmental; being judgmental is completely normal and human. One wouldn’t have been evolved with it if it didn’t help one survive. What is important is not whether one is judgmental or not but what one do with these judgmental thoughts.
The best way to use judgmental thoughts is to use them as a means of improving oneself by initiating a moment of self reflection. For example, while one is judging someone else’s character, maybe there is something about one’s own character that can be improved. When one scorns someone else’s lack of discipline and perseverance, one should take care that one oneself is disciplined and persevering in all areas of one’s life. While one becomes annoyed and even angered by the flaws and weaknesses of others, remember that one has one’s own responsibilities to overcome own flaws and weaknesses.
It is far too easy to look down upon those who are beneath one and feel better about oneself. It makes it easy to forget that one has yet more to master in one’s own life, This is exactly why people get addicted to looking down upon others in contempt with some going as far as bullying. It gives them a relief from having to focus on their own flaws and shortcomings. Don’t fall into the trap of self-contentment and complacency. It doesn’t matter how big their flaws are or how small one’s is. That difference is meaningless. One’s judgment of others should be a means of one’s self improvement, not a means of petty status comparison. The only way one will become a better man or woman is if one strives towards one’s goals and set a higher standard for oneself without putting self or others down.
